10 Essential Rules For Effective Communication

This could apply to all age groups. Something in this for every Coach!
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10 essential rules for effective communication


Getting your players to understand what you want requires a bit more than simply telling them what to do! Here are 10 essential rules for creating effective communication between you and your players:

1. Keep it simple. Young children cannot remember complicated instructions. If you tell a five-year-old to do X, then Y and then Z, they will do X and stop. Older children can remember instructions with two or three components but will struggle to remember four. So keep your instructions short and simple.

2. Talk to the players on their level. Get down on one knee and make eye contact as you communicate. Don't wear sunglasses or tower above them.

3. Always be polite. Using words like "please", "sorry" and "thank you" sets a good example. It also makes your players feel important. Never shout.

4. Tell them, and then tell them again. Once is never enough. Repeat your instructions using slightly different words and check your players' understanding before you move on. One of the best ways of doing that is to ask a child to repeat what has just been said.

5. Listen carefully. Don't interrupt players when they are trying to tell you something. Show them you are listening by maintaining eye contact and remember... their opinions are just as valuable as yours.

6. Avoid inconsistent or confusing body language. Don't, for example, shake your head while telling the player "nice try".

7. Be consistent, firm and fair. No means no. Don't waver or you will become a doormat. Treat everyone equally and don't bend or break the rules for anyone.

8. Never criticise a child in front of others. This will result in resentment and hostility, and not the improvement you're hoping to achieve.

9. Focus on the behavior not the child. Make sure your player knows that it's their actions that you're not happy with, not them.

10. Make sure you know and use your players' names. Nothing is more damaging for a child's self esteem as not knowing their name.

Note: All children need acceptance, encouragement, discipline, consistency and positive attention. As a soccer coach, you are in a unique position to supply all of these. Please don't waste the chance!